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June 9, 2009

When Love got Spilled On a Red Canvass....


Aman opened the door with his left hand, and utilized his other hand pinching her breast between the thumb and the pointer finger.They got in and closed the door with a thundering sound, making two different sections in their respective pharynx boxes. He grabbed her other breast then, squeezing them both, pulled her closer to him and started using her nipples like rein to the bridle. She got her hands busy in unbuttoning his shirt, while his manhood was longingly nudging downstairs, begging for entrance to her innermost sanctum. He moved forward and started removing her skirt down the smooth thighs, but at the very next moment all his mood started going down the slope, and he reluctantly moved back.

"Aman, what happened, anything i did which put u off ?",said Revathi pulling her skirt back to to its original position of decorum.

"Revathi, how many times i have told you not to wear those Red Panties". "I completely detest them, I know its your favourite colour, but still can you put them off specially on days when you knew well in advance, we are going to hit the sack." Aman reverted in a tense shrill voice.

"Oh, I am sorry sweetheart! It completely skipped my mind, Don't worry, Any other colour panties is as good as no panties, what Say!", Revathi moved back and swirled her body in an erotic manner, an invitation clearly to start the action again. She stripped off that red piece of clothing keeping the skirt on her swinging hips, and said "Let's take a break from the Red panties, Alright Mr.Kit Kat!"

This is the reason why Soniye, Love tera Hit hit!" It brought the smile back on Aman's face, he moved forward, bit her tenderly on the lower lip and began a long night of passion and love making.

3 months later...

The D-day of engagement finally arrived for Aman, who was grappling with the timorous thoughts of running away, but the love of Revathi was too strong an incentive to stay calm and composed. He has loved her since last three years with utter depths of his heart. They both looked great together, perfect together, in love together. Suddenly from the sight of his eye, he saw a guest at the entrance of the hall, and realized that a can of worms can get opened today which will be so venomous that its effect would stay for years to come.

Oh, hello Srikant ji, please come in, it’s such a great pleasure to have you here in my son’s engagement. We are delighted you came over after such a long time, almost 20 years!" Raman Dev exulted as Srikant entered the Banquet Hall, simultaneously greeting a
cold and sullen Shanti Devi, Aman's mother.

"Are bhai saab, I just have to come,good time to eat
Bengali rasgullas,You know na my favourite, all the time", Srikant said with a chuckling smile and then eventually got intermixed with the herd of other guests.

15 minutes later...

"Hey Aman, Meet my best friend Shipra, remember i told you, she is studying MBA at University of Berkeley in US. She just returned to India last week after completing her studies", Revathi introduced her to Aman in an exhilarating voice.

Shipra's eyes met Aman's eyes, and in that three second eye-to-eye meet, a gush of emotions starting moving in and out of their senses, their "Hello" to each other was interspersed with a string of nostalgic reminiscences moving in and out of their hearts. In the very next moment, Shipra excused herself to a secluded corner of the hall, but she was not alone.

5 Minutes later....

"What the fuck are you talking Shipra, are you in your senses!", " I know Aman for the last three years, this is not possible, I have never felt that something so strongly is wrong with him". Revathi was thinking at the crucial issues of life which could go wrong if she went ahead today with the engagement.

"Trust me Revathi, I have seen him many times at dad's clinic in Greater Kailash. He underwent the treatment for almost ten years, but nothing substantial came out of it. Ultimately, Dad advised him to discontinue the treatment with some precautionary tips for future. I have discussed his case deeply with dad,only because he felt so low on the fact that he couldn't do more for him.I know we should not judge someone like this, but then its you, my best friend. I can't let your life get ruined like this.", Shipra paused to take a breath which she so desperately missed while telling this saga. And then She continued, "Tell me something, does he reacts aggressively whenever he sees any thing in red colour, Specially clothes.

"Yes, he reacts every time i wear anything in red, You know Yaar, its my favourite colour, but i have stopped wearing it now because of his aversion of the same. Oh damn, why me in such a mess, why me Shipra? what wrong my parents have done who have to go through this humiliation?", Revathi broke down completely in her arms, completely oblivious to Aman's feelings at this pertinent moment.

Three weeks later…

“You lied to me Aman, why you didn’t tell me about your past”, Revathi said with a dewy- eyed innocence, as if asking a string of unwarranted questions, answers of which are better left unanswered.

“Revathi, what difference it makes now. Only you said, I don’t want to know about your past. Now why are you making it into such a humongous issue? It was not my fault”. I tried very hard with all the psychiatric treatment, it reduced but any clothes i used to encounter in red, and i used to loose it at most of the times." Aman said with a dry voice, wanting to convince her at every possible cost.

“No Aman, it does make a difference now. The whole world now knows you get into precarious situations of seeing red color around you. How many times I have faced it myself, but I kept on ignoring thinking it to be a trivial thing. And the worse part is most of the relatives and friends now knows the exact reason why you have to undego that treatment.” I can't take the pain anymore, please forget me and if possible, forgive me".

Revathi left Aman, leaving behind a
Red trail of bettered love on the canvass of his life and a sobbing person, who was left retrieving memories of the Holi day of 19 years ago. In a space of few moments, Aman’s whole world came crashing down to the ruinous effect of the cyclone ‘Aila’, all his dreams of starting a new life with Revathi came to the standstill like the cyclone 'Dolly' and all his aspirations of leading a 'convention' life in this Indian society was washed away completely like the devastating effects of the cyclone 'Paula'.

Three years later…

“Aman Beta, Please eat this. It’s your favourite gajaar ka halwa”, Shanti Devi said it with an exasperated tone, as if questioning herself against the wall created by his own son.

"No mummy, let Srikant uncle come, I will go with him. He would take me to the Bengali market near Shivaji stadium, I really want to eat Rasgullas from there." Aman said throwing his uncharacteristic infantile tantrums.

Hearing this, Shanti Devi ran out of the room as tears started lurking around the corner of her eyes. S
he remembered that fateful Holi day which changed the life of her family completely It was when Srikant came to their home wearing a red shirt. He was Aman's dad's best friend and Aman's best buddy uncle. During the celebrations, as he got an opportunity, He took Aman in the garage room just behind the home, luring him on the pretext of eating Bengali Rusgullas. Aman went with his favourite uncle, who was besmirched with Multi Holi colours, prominently of them was red colour, and was also wearing a red frenchie. And in those few minutes of ravishment, the innocence of a child was smeared, and life was never the same for him again.

Shanti Devi looked at the glistening beam of sunlight falling on Aman's face and She started feeling nostalgic about last three years of her son’s life, the numerous encumbrances she has faced in taking care of him, the uncountable number of visits she has made in this room of 'insanes', the host of fears and traumas she has undergone to make him slightly better; all in vain till date. She mentally made a compromise with her destiny of not seeing up to a comely life for his son, and eventually moved out of the ward in Department of Psychosexual Psychatiary, Lok Nayak hospital,Nehru Marg,Delhi

PS: Due to the heinous act committed by Srikant on that uneventful Holi day, Aman developed
Ereuthophobia over his adolescent years. Even after repetitive medical treatments, the scars remained and continued even when he went into the relationship with Revathi. The trauma of loosing his true love in the 'red' light of his past, made him go on the brink of insanity.

PPS: After being in the Blogosville for close to 2 years now, I am quite astonished with the lack of cognizance about male child sexual abuse in our country. Give it any reason, Indian male egoistical image, inadequate laws to deal with child abuse or the lack of sensitivity among the citizens; this bĂȘte noire in our society is spreading like wild fire. What People (specifically,read ladies) need to realize is that whenever such an incident occurs in childhood, the people who will be most infected are going to be the females in their upcoming lives.

93 comments:

fms1988 said...

good to see u back Amit :)

Kaddu said...

glad u r back dude!
and a brilliant comeback post!
even I had been wondering why nobody mentioned abt this, and yes... u r right... females are the most affected by such happenings. Either the way u hv described in the story above, or at times, guys who hv been abused develop sum sort of strange restlessness during sex, or a need to control/dominate their sexual partner, or a desire to "punish" all females (if they hv been abused by some female in their childhood)...
Lots of things can happen.. but one thing is certain... they rarely get to lead a normal sexual life.

gargi said...

arey... i want to read the whole story..but kal exam hai... (i read the first section till now)....but then its really long..n i have to head to uni... noooooooo... :(

i will be back...soon..or maybe ill finish it now..or maybe later..

m cofused sir jee... :S

*sigh*

Phoenix said...

wooohoooo

what a comeback!! :)

it was a really gripping storyline:)

Ki said...

Oh my god that was bloody scary. :O

But well done. I'm glad you've tried to bring this issue out. :)

How do we know said...

Amazing story!!! It touches a raw nerve that is usually not discussed in our society.. am so glad u brought it out..

Shruti said...

Whoa! When I opened his post, my dad stood right behind me. (u can understand the situation)

On a more serious note...u know what I feel...i think that most of the focus and everything else goes in protecting the rights of the girl child. And the fact that our society is patriarchal, it tends to ignore such issues related to men. You know coz you men are supposed to be all "strong" and stuff like that!

That's purely my opinion and i know i still have a lot of thoughts to develop! The piece was stunning!

Iya said...

pertinent issue. and i hate revathi.

Ms.R. said...

What a comeback *applause*

Your story was bam! I hate Revathi cuz she was an asshole. If she could sleep with him before marriage and stuff, yet cudnt accept him that way. then she was like the rest... Hypocrite. I mean she'd have gone tooth and nail to marry him if her 'shame' of sleeping with him before marriage was out and all her relatives knew about it. Yet she chose to desert him @ a time when he needed her so much. Pathetic. Child abuse sucks to the core. It truly gives scars that will never fade away cuz something so drastic happens at a time when the children are young and growing up. Abuse litrali hampers everything that has to do with growing up... Great comeback Amit :)

Priyanka Agrawalla said...

Nice to see you back with a strong message! gr8 post from you...

Satans Darling™ said...

Back with a bang! Welcome back :)

It's a very strong message.. It prevails a lot in boarding schools too.

Girl Next Door said...

An Eye Opener... You Rock Man .. Thanks for sharing...

Pretty Me!! said...

Frankly, when i started reading, i was ready to leave this post after the first 3 lines itself .. but something made me read it till end .. i glad i read it ?? m super glad ! dunno why people cnt understand sm fears even after staying wd dem so long ... I agree the guy should not have kept it secret .. but he had his reasons ... sad sad story 1 but brilliantly written :)

Suresh Kumar said...

What a story! I was new to the blog and didn't knew what to expect. I thought it was like any other romantic story but it turned out to be completely different story.

Superb flow....

Netika Lumb said...

wow.. really nice.very well written.. And very sensitively portrayed..

Keep blogging :)

Hopeless Romantic said...

@Fatima

Hey, thanks for welcoming me !

Cheers!
Amit

Hopeless Romantic said...

@Kaddu

I completely second ur opinion. See, problem in India is that males being such a dominant force in our society, if such a thing happens, it is always pushed under the carpet. I am not comparing it with female sexual abuse, but when i analyze in depth, i feel the repercussions are equal in both the cases. Does being a male takes away the pain and stigma of a sexual abuse! That was the underlying theme of writing this post!

I appreciate ur response, and thanks for all your compliments!

Cheers,
Amit

Hopeless Romantic said...

@Gargi

Miss ultra-confused :P

All the best for ur exams, concentrate on them, my post is not running anywhere, though i know its addictive:P How can someone leave the post after reading the first para, it was put there specifically to catch attention of the people:D

Come back soon and complete reading the story! waiting for ur long comment :D

All the best,
Amit

Hopeless Romantic said...

@Phoenix

Thanks buddy :) Glad u liked it !

Keep coming!
Amit

Hopeless Romantic said...

@Kirti

Thanks sweetie :) Frustration of 2 years at seeing this thing go hush-hush resulted in this post :D

Stay good!
Amit

Hopeless Romantic said...

@HDWK

Thanks buddy:) I Hope people at least recognize this as a potential issue in Indian society!

Cheers,
Amit

Hopeless Romantic said...

@Shruti

Oops, I can understand ur situation with dad on ur head :)

Exactly my point, as a child - whether its male or female, both are equally vulnerable and can be sexually exploited. Why then this issue is put under the carpet always, as if we refuse to recognize a potential devil between us !

Thanks,
AKG

Hopeless Romantic said...

@Iya

Thanks dear, good to cu here!

Well, we are all humans and at times we still bow down to what society has to think about us, rather than thinking about our close ones!

Regards,
Amit

Hopeless Romantic said...

@ LMR :D

I know from where ur coming from. Length of the post was getting a bit out of hand (as always the case with me :D), otherwise i would have explored a bit more how Revathi felt while taking the decision of leaving Aman. But Hypocrite she was,though i feel sleeping with someone and being sexually abused are two different things. Its like when a girl goes with a man, she is fine but when she goes alone, she is a slut. I hope u got the drift :)

Thanks for ur sweet gesture. Hope my comeback is here to stay !

Cheers,
AKG

Hopeless Romantic said...

@Priyanka

Thanks for that sweet comment. Sorry, I couldn't recognize u on the yahoo pingbox this morning. I realized it later!

Cheers,
Amit

Hopeless Romantic said...

@Ashrita

Thanks, wasn't that expected from me, coming back with a bang, good wishes from blogger friends like u :)

I know it happens a lot in the boarding schools, both male and female :) and it sucks!

Cheers,
Amit

Hopeless Romantic said...

@GND

Thanks for all those nice compliments!

Love,
Amit

Hopeless Romantic said...

@Pratibha

Hey,welcome to the blog ! They say - never judge a book by its cover, similarly never judge a HR post by its paragraph, 99 percent of the time u would not get what u expect! Don't trust me, read more posts, you would get the jazzz !

Do keep in touch ! Would love to see u here again!

Best wishes,
AKG

Hopeless Romantic said...

@Suresh

Hey buddy, your first time here! Welcome to my blogging space! I saw ur blog and followed it instantly, i love seeing ppl write stories !

Glad you liked it, keep in touch !

Cu around,
Amit

Hopeless Romantic said...

@Netika

Thanks, i will surely keep writing!

Btw, if you just noticed, i have completed ur first wish indirectly - a mean, selfish women :D

Keep coming back for the fulfillment of ur other wishes soon!

Cheers,
Amit

bondgal_rulz said...

Take a bow Amit!! You deserve a standing ovation for this one.

Child abuse - of both girls and boys - is the most heinous crime ever. But you know what is even more pathetic? Our beloved society's shameless putting down, of not the perpetrator, but the victim.

Glad to see you back. Keep blogging.

Cheers

Vinnie said...

male CSA is just as awful..u brought it out beautifully...its scary n sad ending but leaves a strong message...great work!

Hopeless Romantic said...

@Isha

Thank you so much :)

Well, we need more stricter laws to deal with this. Otherwise the situation won't improve in another 50 years as well.

I will keep blogging till i have stories to tell :)

Cheers,
amit

Hopeless Romantic said...

@Vinnie

I agree both MCSA and FCSA are awful, but then they are not looked with the same eye in our society, that's the worse part about it !

Thanks for dropping by!
Amit

Arnab Majumdar said...

Interesting topic to write on. It's very important to remove the ignorance and apathy about topics like this. In keeping with that view, wonderful to see a post about it.

Cheers... keep blogging.

Kaddu said...

@bondgal_rulz:

"Our beloved society's shameless putting down, of not the perpetrator, but the victim."


Exactly! That's what my latest post is about!

Netika Lumb said...

Oh.. I never think women can ever be mean and selfish.. this is fiction.. and reality is way different :)

Hopeless Romantic said...

@Arnab

Thanks Dude, this is your first comment here! I second ur opinion completely. This post is just my two cents in removing the ignorance about it.

Cheers,
Amit

Hopeless Romantic said...

@Isha, Kaddu

There is a difference in the way kaddu has written and i am perceiving it - basically its a difference of the point of view of men and women. I read kaddu's post, and i agree with her. Even Isha is right, but i just feel things are much more worse in case of males, because no one never talks about it. Just my point of view.

Lets hope things change for the best!

Hopeless Romantic said...

@Netika

Oh really, then i am sorry to say but u don't know women well. They can be real bitches :D

Btw as Kajal said on her blog once - every piece of fiction is someone's reality. Isn't that true about nature of Females ;)

Think about it,
Amit

Kaddu said...

@ Netika:

About women... a friend just came over... completely in tears and thinking of suicide! Know why? Her elder sister is home (again!) for summer vacations, and together with her mom, they hv been abusing her for being born with leukoderma, which btw, my friend (the youngest daughter of their family) has inherited from her dad! Miraculously, her elder 2 sisters were saved from it, got married off in time, whereas she couldn't! And now they are asking her to kill herself! Her elder sister and her mom! Women! And this is not fiction... its reality!

Kaddu said...

@ HR:

I am a bit lost! Who's Isha now? I commented on bondgal's comment... agreeing with her abt how we blame the victim in such cases! And referring her to my last post.

Your post of course was focused on a slightly different issue. It was abt the suppression of men folks in general, in India. I find it really disgusting btw, 'coz I have faced its consequences in my personal life.

Frankly, I don't think many Indian boys would have the guts to even tell their parents abt such a case of sexual abuse, because the society teaches them 'never to be weak'! It doesn't create a healthy upbringing though for the males... for which girls do have to suffer later on, in other indirect ways... but then it is women only, who instill such traits in boys as mothers.

So its like a vicious circle... and only women can break it... women will have to take the first initiative... for men's lives completely revolve arnd women! Not much point in blaming men for our miseries... coz we are the ones who mold them into their existing personality...

Long comment... oops! :p
I guess I'm a little shaken up by my friend's experience who just visited me!

AD said...

i have been silently following as you have :)
i dont like to be around there weher i feel a little unwelcomed.

but it is a mutual, the feeling that your skills are brilliant!

i m an incurable romantic myself.
an dyour posts usually feed my soul!

bondgal_rulz said...

WARNING : Looong post ahead!

Now that the formalities are done, let's begin.

Amith - Yes, we do need more strict laws. There are a hell lotta loopholes in the current ones.

For starters, technically our law does not even recognise? sexual abuse as an offence cos according to it, abuse is said to have taken place only when there is penetration of the vagina. Which by default means that there is no acknowledgement of sexual crimes against men! The law blissfully ignores oral, digital and object penetration too!

Want more?

In cases of CSA, section 376 0f the IPC is applied according to which the age of consent is 16 years. Now, in a case of rape, the onus lies on the victim to prove the act, however if the victim is minor, the question of consent does not arise at all, as the consent of minor is not considered as consent in the eyes of the law! (Contract Act)

And to top of all of this, the Indian Law seems to be fairly confused about who all constitute the definition of a "child" - the range for the same varying from 7 to 18. Needless to say, this provides the guilty with a glorious escape route.

But how many of us are even aware of these loopholes? And even if we are, what are we doing about it?

Sitting in our air conditioned bedrooms and typing out our views on the latest laptops? Hasn't enough of this been done already? Isn't it time to be a little pro-active now?

Just some questions, nothing personal.

bondgal_rulz said...

Oops!! Meant Amit !!

bondgal_rulz said...

@ Amit -

Concern about sexual abuse has nearly always emphasized the victimization of girls and women. This misleadingly implies that sexual abuse among boys and men is rare. Yet, the sexual abuse of boys is common, underreported, under recognized, and under treated. Sexual victimization of men is often unacknowledged and misunderstood.

Point taken.

One of the prime reasons behind boys not speaking up is as rightly identified by Kaddu - raising of questions on their masculinity.

And misconceptions such as all abused boys become sexual offenders or that boys abused by men may become bisexual only force the issue to be shoved under the carpet.

@ Kaddu and Amit - But tell me, why are we trying to measure the suffering of the sexes?

By doing that aren't you discriminating on the grounds of sex??

A child is a child is a child. The sexual abuse takes place because of the superior position of the perpetrator be it in terms of physical or fiduciary power.

Sexual abuse is dehumanisation of one's power and another's dignity and privacy.

Let us not involve it in the shackles of gender discrimination. But then again, when the country's very law does just that, what else can be expected.

P.S. I'm really sorry, if I might have used some harsh words in the comments. Please do not take any personal offence cos it was not meant!

Cheers

Hopeless Romantic said...

@Kaddu

Thanks for sharing this 'real' story! I first have to Google about
leukoderma, and i came up with this link which explains everything in detail.

http://www.hair-n-skin-care.com/pigmentation/leukoderma.html

I am pretty shocked at whatever ur friend is going through, I hope she is strong enough to cope with it and come out of it safe. And i absolute agree with this point, why feminists always blame male for everything, where most of the time discrimination starts with a female rather than men ! Its a point worth discussing!

Thanks,
Amit

Hopeless Romantic said...

@Netika

I hope now you have the answer how women can be real fucking bitches :D

I know you said the thing in good humour, but things have taken a real frank and open discussion here, and I am glad it took that way. It really served the purpose of writing a post :)

Do drop in by with ur thoughts NOW :P

Cheers,
Amit

Hopeless Romantic said...

@AD

Hey, welcome back to the blog! I am sorry if you felt that way! I did responded back to u when u commented first time on my blog :)

http://loveisalwaysnew.blogspot.com/2009/04/love-knows-no-rules.html

Anyways, i am also guilty since i have just followed and enjoyed ur readings without commenting anytime. You were running 4 blogs simultaneously, and somehow when a person manages so many blogs,i get completely zapped what to follow and where to comment. I know lame excuses, but somehow i am not able to relate to the person behind the blog :)

But anyways, great to see u here again! I am glad to know ur another Hopeless Romantic and thanks for all those nice appreciative words :)

Keep coming!
Amit

Hopeless Romantic said...

@Kaddu

bondgal is Isha:D

I completely agree with your point.If change has to come, it has to come within women first, and not just as young girls, but also further in their life, when they become mothers and grandmothers. Both men and women need each other, no one can live without each other and if there are issues, both are equally responsible of no Solution is found specially in sexual abuses.

Why every time a male child feels sad and cries,mom says ur a MAN, don't cry? Does he not have emotions? Does he not feel the pain? Does he not go through the humiliation if sexually abused? Is it different from the shame which a girl has to go through if sexually abused? These are some of the answers which the so called feminists need to answer first among themselves and then start the blame game with men!

Hi'5
Amit

Hopeless Romantic said...

@Isha

Huh, that was long and thought provoking for the starters. I really want to know what ru studying...Let me take a guess, is it Law :D

Firstly, Male sexual abuse is classified as Sodomy in Indian law, though there is no clear indications of how it is interpreted. Digital Penetration comes under Molestation, Not sure about Oral Sex (my guess again on Molestation), and Object penetration , Lol- they don't classify it, reason - They don't sell sex toys in India, why to have laws for it :D
There are no clear cut sexual abuse laws In India, more so for the males because it is not even recognized, forget about tackling it.

I agree in cases of Rape with females, the onus lies with the females and they have to undergo a lot of trauma to prove it, but on the other hand, I don't want this law to be too relaxed, otherwise we will also see an increase in the number of Females putting false claims on Males, just like it is rampantly prevalent in the West. Though i second the opinion that Police and judiciary needs to be extremely careful about the way they handle such cases.

We can only make people aware through blogs, so that if something unwanted happens in their lives, they are aware of their rights and they know how to proceed with it. Ultimately its the Government who has to take the initiative, but the sad part is they sucks big time in India. Best Example, changes still not being made in section 377 to deal with homosexuality as a non criminal offense.

Just Some answers. Absolutely nothing personal.

Cheers,
Amit

Hopeless Romantic said...

@Isha

I know there is one Amith on the blogosphere, U can call me HR if it gets confusing. I am getting used to the pseudonym.

Love,
Amit

Hopeless Romantic said...

@Isha

U took all the words from me i wanted to say how things are handled in India for Male CSA :D I just want to add a few instances where i have seen/heard people gets affected by it - (a) In the boarding schools (b) In the Orphanages (c) With sexual workers' children (d) With house male maids.

I am glad u brought out the point of bisexuals here. Other day i was reading an article and it says that In India, at least 27 percent of men have either experienced bisexual feelings or have experienced bisexual sex before marriage. A country which always puts sex under the cover, its a very high percentage. And these things are never discussed in public because of "macho" image of men in our society.

Thanks,
Amit

Hopeless Romantic said...

@Isha (and Kaddu :D)

There were no harsh comments, we were just voicing our opinions here. But, we are not discrimination sexual abuse on the basis of gender. Absolutely not ! What we were most concerned was the fact that when sexual abuse is free of sex(as Isha said), why the topic of Male CSA is so hushed up, why there are no discussions about it? why there are no clear cut rules about it. If these basic things are not there, how can we think of providing justice to the culprits. There is still a long way to go before we talk about equality in our society.

Thanks for pouring in your thoughts,
Amit

bondgal_rulz said...

I can call you whatever you want me to. :)

Alright on a serious note....That's precisely what I'm talking about! The law's discrimination on the grounds of sex!

They don't sell em?? :O Ohhhhh!!! u mean Sshhhhhh!!! Sale of sex toys only at supa high prices for the elite upper class? ;)

That's totally true about women misusing the law to their advantage.

Awareness. Yes. But is that all that is needed. Is this where it comes to an end?

And let's just know from now on, that there is nothing personal about this discusiion. ;) he he, what say?

bondgal_rulz said...

And I haven't even yet started on the topic of trafficking where btw, the ratio of MSCA is much higher.

And ohh dude!!! Homosexuality pe tto hamare desh ke laws are laugh-worthy I tell you!!!

Hopeless Romantic said...

@Isha

I am cool with whatever u call me :)

There was a dialgoue in the climactic scene of the move - The wednesday :- Humhein Ghar chalana hota hain, Isliye hum Sarkar chunthe hain ki woh Desh chalaye, Par woh kuch karthe nahin hain! Isn't that true!

I know its frustrating, i have experienced it myself. U cant do much about it apart from just spreading the word. And i think we have done it well this time around. So, pat on the back to u :)

Sex toys selling are illegal in India, You can't even bring them through airports, But yes you can order them on some Stores abroad who ship it internationally, but usually it entails a very high cost generally 5 times higher than the cost of sex toy itself. So, u can understand - unless someone is really looking for kinky sex, he would not get into it - forget about sexual abusing with it.

That's totally true about women misusing the law to their advantage - I really want to write something on this, one day hopefully i would write another mushy story on this, Oops I am not entitled to give my stories away like this :)

There was nothing personal from the beginning itself !

Love,
Amit

bondgal_rulz said...

Yes. To stop something you need to first acknowledge it. And it's about time that MSCA gets acknowledged and sexual abuse as a whole gets distinguished from rape. For doesn't any unsolicited bad intentioned touch/hug/kiss leave as much as a scar on a kid's soul as a penetration.

Peace

bondgal_rulz said...

Pat on the back to you too. :)

Hopeless Romantic said...

@Isha

Oh ya, i missed Male human trafficking, remember page3 movie scene, its horrible !

And its better not to go in the direction of discussing about section 377.Its just like u said - laugh it off !

Peace!
Amit

Hopeless Romantic said...

@Isha

Hope one day comes when Male CSA abusers are shown the right door !

Keep spreading the word!
AKG

Kaddu said...

Looks like u guys were busy commenting right through the night! @-)

Hopeless Romantic said...

@Kaddu

No buddy, only till 1:16 AM :D

Cheers,
Amit

bondgal_rulz said...

@ Kaddu - We missed you though!! :P

Kaddu said...

Ha ha ha! Thankfully, I was fast asleep and floating away in my dreamland! ;)

muthu said...

First of all, I am glad that you are back Amit. Cheers.

And a nice narrative though it had a bitter ending. (the topic had to have a bitter ending to have an impact.)

And I went through the entire conversation in the comment section.

And I agree with bondgal-

Kids are kids and when they are molested, whether they are boys or girls makes the least difference.

And yeah as Amit pointed out- the laws in the country are so vague and if they are specific they are useless. As is the definition of rape in the law.

In our country - people generally in the bid to hang on to the so called culture - screen such issues such as child molestation.

Whats immediately needed is not stricter laws but redefining whats punishable and what can be classified as molestation...

I jus read a very very disturbing 55 fiction about the same- child molestation.

I am disturbed and angry tat things are the way they are.

I, Me and Myself said...

firstly applause and 3 cheers to a wonderful comeback dear...

*sigh* amit
yes male sexual abuse is not taken into dat much consideration in our country...and honestly i hate revathy for doing this....she couldnt accpt him when it no fault of his....why i don't knwo its not given as much importance as female sexual abuse...and i knw it can leave irrepairable forms of scars for all ur adulthood...and yes its true....we females are dmost affected at d end....

i don't have any personal views on this...so dunno what to comment...but all i can say...is wonderful....

I, Me and Myself said...

and btw...bhool gaye na ki mere papers chal rahe hain isliye nahi padh paayi...dats y late....

Hopeless Romantic said...

@Muthu

Thanks buddy, i am back and roaring:)

Well, there is an urgent need to have a look at the laws in India, and just not in the sham of culture. Hope things improve in my lifetime :D

Thanks for sharing your views!

Cheers,
Amit

Hopeless Romantic said...

@Shweta

I know ur exams are on, but seeing the frequency with which u were posting, i thought ur quite well prepared :P

Thanks for welcoming me, all urs all the time:)

Well, read the comments section when u get time. I am sure u would surely form an opinion after reading them. I have seen females get affected because of such things, and the worse part is even the males who are sexually abused don't realize it since they don't get proper counseling :)

Thanks,
Amit

Shanu said...

Awesome post!! Loved it!

first time here..but will defntly keep droppin by!

Illeen said...

Oh what a post..

Initially i thought just another passionate love story..Male sex abuse is a less discussed issue and you have dealt with it so beautifully.It brought back some memories..A very close friend of mine had confided on how his teacher used to sexually abuse students on the pretext of giving them extra classes.

Keep the good work Amit..shall coem back for more.

Hopeless Romantic said...

@Shanu

Hey, welcome to my blog ! I am glad u liked it and thanks for all the nice words:)

Keep coming for more!
Amit

Hopeless Romantic said...

@Indu

Welcome to my blog space! Thanks for following me and commenting here ! Glad u liked the post and the blog :)

Don't expect the expected here, u will be in for a surprise! MCSA is pretty common in India, however it needs to be brought in focus more. I am quite aware of the example u just gave, perverts i tell u !!

Do come back again!
Amit

Quirky Mon said...

Glad to see you back, Amit.Hope everything that has been keeping you busy has settled down.

To be frank, I was a bit shocked to read the first few lines as to where this post was heading! But on reading the whole of it, I'm quite sad, but not shocked. It's a common occurrence...child abuse, incest. Since you are quite analytical about my posts and read between the lines of whatever I write, you must have gathered why I so strongly feel about this particular topic.It's a sad but frequent occurrence, traumatizing and scarring the lives of many children forever...still rampant in a discreet fashion due to the heinous crimes of adults using them as means of fulfilling their sexual fantasies. The subject nauseates me. Psychotherapy and family support can only help up to a certain extent, only solution is preventing the occurrence of these crimes. But time is a great healer, it really is...

Mahesh Sindbandge said...

First of all i am happy to see you back..

i thought of reading this post long ago but i knew then that i wont be able to comment as i was in office, so i am here to read it in a solitude mood to write a big comment today...


the first paragraph of this post was very tempting :p and i must say that the flow went really well till the end and the second twist was very unexpected....

I say this with my open heart that if i get a wish from god to come true, then it would be to kill all these "srikanth uncle" kind of people who in different ways ruin the life of thousands of children.

I have seen many people who suffer throughout their life and they cant blame anyone. They cant even explain to everyone they love, care for..

Anyways i loved this post of yours very much...

Keep writing

Cheers

Hopeless Romantic said...

@Mayurakshi

Thanks, Things are settling down both on the professional and personal front !

I know where ru pointing in ur blog! I can understand where ru heading to in ur comment, but rather than saying time is the only healer - we should actually try and take time out of the equation by being more aware out of it. Lets make such strict rules which would put pervert like these think 5 times before committing such crimes!

Don't be sad, something just needs to be let gone by!

Cheer Up!
Amit

Kaddu said...

Just wanna add to Quirky Mon's comment:

Time is definitely a great healer, but even more so is love. If Revathi hadn't quit on him like this, Aman would have been completely healed of all the scars of that experience soon after marriage!

gargi said...

I just came back home after giving my maths exam..lol

i have been visiting your blog for a while..but didnt get time to finish reading the post...but finally i have done it!!

What do i say... just like every time..you bring up something new and VERY important topics into our minds... i honestly have never thought about this particular issue before... child abuse has painted the only picture of a girl being sexually exploited... but this post makes me think about something different yet very true...

I feel so odd now... :|
gosh... just like every other time..i still ask..what is wrong with the people who actually go to the extent of doing such things!

And yes..you are right.. i think if its a girl... this whole issue comes to light (whenever and if it does)..its something u are shocked to hear..yet you know that if its a girl..then its some what normal to hear about it..(not in the sense that its ok to exploit anyone for that matter!!)... but when this whole issue about a male comes up... it just feels weird... truly disgusting actually...its a harsh reality....what can we do... :(

im happy u wrote this post... i loved it...I so totally look forward to reading ur posts!!... ur an awesome writer!!!... *applauds for u* :)

take care...
:)

Miss Sunshine said...

What a comeback! Really. I don't know how I missed it, but I am glad I found it today.
Revathi needs to get a life. Bloody Hell!
and what a brilliant point you have raised. It felt like reading Kite Runner all over again.
Even though, i detest unhappy endings, (I can't handle the pain.), it was one valuable lesson, which was well deserved to be learnt.
*Applauds*

Hopeless Romantic said...

@Mahesh

Thanks dude, its great to be back !

Well, its just not 'Srikant Uncle's', there are many 'aunties' also who are present in the society. We need to get rid of them too. First step is be aware of the issue, accept it and then only u cn look to solve it.

First para was deliberately made like that to catch attention and set the 'real motive' for the readers :)

Cheers,
Amit

Hopeless Romantic said...

@Kaddu, Mayurakshi

Hmm, I am completely in sync with ur thought process. But tell me, is only revathi responsible for it? Isn't the society (which includes u and me) also responsible that such a thing is never talked about, people are frowned upon even when its not their mistakes, they have to pay for bad deeds for another person. Its easier to play the blame game but its tough to take the blame collectively and do something constructive to negotiate it !

Thanks,
Amit

Hopeless Romantic said...

@gargi

Lol, thank god you finally got time, all the pleasure is mine that you took time out of your busy schedule to comment here ! How did ur maths exams go?

The answer lies in ur comment only. The visibility of such heinous crimes is very less in India. Who knows such "srikant kind of uncles" were also exploited in their childhood, hence turning revengeful when they grow up ! Its a vicious cycle, at least its effects can be reduced if its not broken completely.

When its females, we consider it to be normal. But if its a male child,its hushed up - not thinking of the consequences it can have. This post may have been a extreme situation, but even intermediate stages are not that great to be in !

All the best for remaining exams!
Amit

Hopeless Romantic said...

@Apurva

Hey, welcome back to the blog! I am glad we both found each other finally after a long time :D

Kite Runner is one of my favourite books. I can understand how ur relating to it. Its quite hopeless case actually in India. More than hating revathi, i would prefer if people can talk more openly about this topic, not just on this blog but otherwise too !

Thanks for dropping by! Cu again!
HR

Megha Gupta said...

seriously an eye opener..
after reading this even i thought about it...never occurred to me before...we always read abt harassment cases on women...be it any kind f abuse..

very nicely portrayed..

Hopeless Romantic said...

@Megha

Chalo kisi ki to aankehn khuli :D

Jokes apart, this demeaning act has always existed, its just that it is never discussed openly in public!

Thanks for compliment!

Cheers!
amit

Nikita said...

Amit, I'm going to say a HUGE thank you to you for this one. it is commendable for you to have taken up the issue. i completely agree that male CSA is widely ignored, neglected and underreported and the less said about our laws, the better. the attitude and level of awareness in our country are truly shameful. i've read all the comments and most has already been said. but also, after reading it I'm vry inclined to write a series of posts containing information abt the issue, as much as my limited knowledge allows me. i just read a post by one of my readers n realised how grossly misunderstood the arena of sex-related offences is.

really, kudos for bringing this up.

Kaddu said...

@ Nikita:
I was digging up in my Google Reader, thru Amit's RSS feed, to look for this particular post. Wanted to send u a link to it, 'coz I wasn't sure if u read his blog or not. LOL! Just then I recd your comment in my inbox, as I'm still subscribed to the comments on this post! :D Guess I can close my Google Reader now!

Hopeless Romantic said...

@Nikita

Thanks, when i read your post, i did thought you might just want to read this one, so passed on the link and seeing Kaddu's comment,i was alone. I guess everything has been said before in the comment section, so nothing major to add on. Will wait for your series of posts. It will be a great initiative if you get that dissertation, for you and for the society too!

All the best,
Amit

Hopeless Romantic said...

* I was not alone

Hopeless Romantic said...

@Kaddu,

lol, thanks to your delhi group meet, i started following Nikita's blog and then she started reading me! But, ya me, u and Isha had long time discussions on this post, so it was special and time consuming too!

You can close the Google reader now for sure ;)

Thanks,
Amit

Nikita said...

Well, i don't know about the dissertation yet...but i do know that the blog is one place where i can start. will keep writing and posting as much time allows me! :)

over and out! :P

Hopeless Romantic said...

@Nikita

All the best for the project. Keep writing, its important in our society to spread the word. Laws may not change , but atleast mentality can be changed of the people living in the society.

Cheers,
Amit