August 12, 2009
From A Mushy Mortal To An Angry Young Man !
After the 9/8 post explosions, things have settled down a bit (or has it!). I sat down today to read back all the comments, and incidentally realised that I crossed 100 comments on it, first time ever on this blog on any write-up. It made me contemplate a little bit what made it so intriguing, for me it was just a ranting post about the way i perceive blogging. A few people pretty conveniently took out the "MY" word from the post, and in turn took it as the Seven(not ten!) commandments of blogging, which is an incorrect generalization. Also, there have been a few other questions which have been asked from me either through e-mails, chat sessions and even during the comments. Though i have tried my level best to reply each of them in a concise manner, for the sake of letting everyone know the answers for the same; here are the seven questions which i feel can cover up all bases and clear up all existing (if any) misunderstandings/apprehensions. This is in sort of a self- interview mode...
1) What made you write this post, even when you were so called 'uncomfortable' doing it, and are you apologetic about it?
A: Ok, i really want to challenge the person to show me even one line in the post which can be construed in this manner proving that i am apologetic in writing it. I REPEAT, i did it with a conscious mind that there will be people who would be offended by it, and that is the exact reason why it was written - to make a few of the frigging creatures realise what crap they are doing it on the blogosphere. Yes, i could have hurted a few people unwillingly, but that's part of the game. You win some, you loose some, and going by the response i am pretty sure i have gained from it a lot. And yes, you can say that i took the moral responsibility of exposing a few people (without taking names) so that next time if such a scenario happens in their blogs, they are not caught unaware regarding the tribulations of the negative side of blogging. Every system in the world has positive and negative traits and same goes with the people associated with it. You can never eliminate them, but you can always minimize them. I wrote it because i wanted people to know about it, and why would i be apologetic in spreading the word !
2) Why this sudden change in the tone of the post, I recognize your blog with clean and entertaining writing, i felt uncomfortable reading it !
A: There are times in life when you have to get stern, and show the world that me (or any similar situation blogger) can't be taken for granted or can't be pushed under the carpet by some morons. In no way i am defending the abusive language, but such a kind of post required this kind of language. If tomorrow i start to write about a sex addict, do you expect me to write without using the "bees and the boos" terms. Same goes with this one, i can't make my point lucid without showing the irritation, because lets face it - had i used a milder language and not used specific examples, this post would have had not even half the effect. You can't always make lemonades when people throw lemons at you, sometimes you have to mix it with tequila shots to have a burning (read offensive) sensation. Though some of the bloggers still feel it was witty and NOT rude, but then different ppl, different opinion. I am cool with it!
3) On one hand you are saying you don't want advertisements on your blog, and on another hand a few days back, you wrote a post when one of your write-ups was selected for blog adda. Isn't this hypocrisy?
A: No, its not same ! There is a difference between me putting an advertising website link on my blog and a website linking my post. However, i agree that in both ways you are looking at increasing your blog traffic, but you need to understand that i don't want to break the sanity of my blog by putting such advertisements. You are coming on my blog space to read me, not to read advertisements. Why should i let you wander your mind from reading my attractive posts (I am modest, i know :D) Point is, unless you are looking for financial rewards from your blog its absolute frivolous to put them on your blog. I was just clearing my stance in blog rule no.7 that i am not interested in these kind of crappy advertisers. Also, i didn't put a blog Adda logo on my website when they linked my post on their website. It was their initiative that they searched my blog, found a post worthy enough to be picked for their weekly section and were courteous to let me know before posting it through an e-mail. where is the bloody hypocrisy here?
4) Who are you to tell us how to write on our respective blog and our posts, its my space and i would write in whatever way i feel like?
A: Who is stopping you to write on your blog, its your space and its your prerogative to write in whatever way you want it to be. But i have the right to decide what is pissing me off in a bad writing, and that's exactly what i have just shared with all. In no way, i am telling you to write in an even sized font or without using colour ALWAYS, but don't misuse it. Use it when necessary, undesirable usage leads to putting off people completely from the content of the post to these extraneous things in the post. And do you really think one post can make ALL the people change their style of writing, you are kidding me, RIGHT? Its not about the people who decides NOT to follow the rule, its about the people who decides to abide by it which is more important to me. And as you can see from the comments, a lot of people agree with it. How can telling people to be better organized and presentable seen as a negative trait, i am still rucking up my brain cells to answer this :D
5) On one side you write that you are away from all the machinations of the blogging, and still you know everything about the politics and bitching which goes around. Are we dealing with a double standard person here!
A: Very interesting question, i would love answering this! I believe, i am completely away from all the bitching and the cribbing which goes on in the blogosphere. I am directly not affected by it, but unfortunately some of my blogger friends and followers are not in the same boat. So, if any of them are offended when he/she is deleted from a fucking group blog, and he/she is ranting the details, you would get affected. If any of them are depressed when he/she is being blocked by a fellow blogger for an incorrect reason, you would get to know about it. Either call me a good friend and a networker, or a double standard person shifting stances. It can't be both, right! I really don't want to brag here, but since i am answering this, i would take this liberty. I think anyone who interacts me offline or through e-mails knows, the least we talk about it is blogging, and we are mostly talking about blog posts, its about the subject of the post and its implications. But yes, if i meet people who are comfortable sharing their so called 'blogging relationship issues', i can't be insensitive to them and give them a cold shoulder. Will you do that in real world with real friends, no, never, then i can't do the same here ! While blogging anonymously before starting this blog, i realised very early why its important to make so called BLOGGING RULES. It truly saves you from a lot of unwarranted attention and tensions. So, i will be present for anyone who interacts with me or want to bitch about someone, but i won't get myself mingled in the mud.
6) What is this fascination with love, why most of the people who wants to write on a blog rant about love stories/poems, isn't this an attention seeking behaviour?
A: Well, why is your ass paining then. its my blog, i will write what i want to. Oops, i got into the aggressive mode like some of my commentators on the last post :P Anyways, coming back to this question, let me put it this way. Love is a universal feeling, but it comes with a lot of baggage - relationships, marriage, sex, dating, compatibility issues, societal pressures and all that jazzz! Anyone who decides to write about it has been affected by love in one way or another. Blogging gives him/her an opportunity to express it, i don't see it as an issue. As far as attention seeking behaviour or increased traffic on the blog is concerned, it is again a false assumption. You won't read a blog because it is based on love, you would read the blog because you love the way love is interpreted in its write-ups. Tell me, how many people used to read Fake IPL player's blog to know about cricket and its technicalities, hardly anyone. People read it because they identify with players/stars and its various associations with the game. In a similar manner, writing about love ONLY doesn't mean someone is seeking attention, rather he/she is just extrapolating their personal life on the white blogger sheet, letting people know what his/her perceptions are in real world. And as far as my blog is concerned, people know their is mostly a hidden agenda behind writing any story. So, if spreading knowledge and resolutions means attention seeking behavior, then so be it !
7) Why this change in the content of the posts, your blog is becoming a mix and match of everything, it doesn't go with the title and feel of your blog!
A: Well, variety is the spice of life, isn't it? I never started this blog to write only about mushy stories, perfect love (and things) happen only in good books and bad films (Remember, KANK bench scene :D) I was always writing about different things, be it cricket, films, books, or the regular things like love stories, love laced incidents and anecdotes. What has changed is the frequency of mushy posts, which i agree has gone down. Reasons for it could be attributed to my studies, my personal life and not having an environment to write good stories. But, it doesn't mean if i don't have a decent story to write, i can't write on other different things. If Sachin plays chess one day, it doesn't mean he is not capable enough to play cricket. If i find something interesting on Origami, i would share it in its simple form, rather than molding it to make a love story based on it. (Not a bad idea, btw!) The main theme of this blog will ALWAYS remain love, but let me show my love for various other things in life too. I can't be uni dimensional in life, i love the other aspects of life too. So basically you see i am a lovable person (oops, PJ :P)
PS: The credit of title of this post goes to Sujata Di, whose one liner on the last post cracked me up completely in middle of laborious act of replying back to each of the comments. Thanks
a lot for that !
PPS: I had enough of preachy talks, i am back next time with a corny horny mushy love story or should i go with the wave of transformation. I love the changes, i love the transformations, i love the feeling of love :D Stay safe, cheers!