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April 9, 2010

Have we lost our innocence?


Just some REALLY random thoughts........

1) We all talk about becoming better creative thinkers and all-rounders in virtually every field. We want our children to be supremely talented easily neglecting their pace, growth and maturity levels. why we are so hard on ourselves that we fail to enjoy the whole process of learning and unlearning? Why we are always interested in the end result or is '3 idiots' philosophy of chasing excellence is just too filmy for all of us? Why the path full of darkness is always frowned upon, neglecting the beautiful sunrise it may present in the later stages? Why the path of success is always a short-cut, a path where you can reach only by being condescending to your juniors and ass licking to your seniors. Why we neglect the addition in the knowledge reservoir inside us rather concentrating only on the outflow of it in the end? I don't know the answers, but may be somewhere we have lost our innocence to learn a beautiful concept step by step, rather we now invariably jump to it's practical applications too soon.

2) We talk about how blogging can be one activity in which you can vent out your pent-up feelings without bothering how people are going to judge you. But we delete our profiles as a first step of getting away from our own mess. when it comes to facing the real situations of getting engaged/married, we start deleting posts to cover the dark secrets of life. In turn we expect full honesty and faithfulness from our partners, but in deep corners of our own life - we still are running from the world. We delete and move from one 'internet' friend to another as if nothing happened, as if no talks were exchanged, as if sharing your intimate secrets with someone was a norm. Why people have stopped valuing friendships even when it is just over internet or people just don't want to realise it's spill-over effect in the real life too. Why people want to do an ego-boost by creating an alternate life for themselves over the blog? why people want to keep lying to themselves till it become too big to hide? I don't know the answers but may be somewhere we have lost the innocence to be honest with ourselves and accept what we are as individuals.

3) We talk about peace and harmony with all people around us, make silent prayers for our dear ones - specially with our neighborhood "terrorist" country but if Sania 'bhabhi' wants to shift to Karachi (or Dubai), we are ready to outcast her because she is marrying a Pakistani. Why seeking peace has become such an arduous task for every country? Forget achieving, why even talking about it is becoming a burden? why we want to resolve everything by futile arguments and nuclear arms? why there is no clarity or vision in moving towards a peaceful society. I don't know the answers but may be somewhere we have lost the innocence to see peace in our own hearts.

4) We talk and dream about management degrees and big salaries, visiting the most costliest places around the world, staying at the most luxurious hotels, travelling in awesome four wheelers and buying the coolest electronic gadgets. But we don't realise money can only bring the materialistic things of various proportions. Where is that smile gone seeing the early morning whispering in the backyard of your house? Where are those chuckles gone eating the late night ten rupees Maggie with friends at a road side dhabha? Where is that timeless time gone which we use to spent in reading five rupees "chacha chaudhary" at the railway junction? Where is that energy gone in bringing the whole family together at a festival, rather wishing over internet/mobile has become more convenient. I don't know the answers but somewhere we have lost the innocence of enjoying the simple things of life in a simple manner.

5) We talk about the need of being flexible in our mindsets and having required patience level of hearing each other out in relationships. But as soon as we come to know that a certain person disagrees with you or think differently, we try and removing him/her from our lives (be it on Facebook, twitter or your mobile). That's how much impatient we have become, that's how much touchy we have become. It takes one moron to start talking crap about "other religion" on an IPL post and people are ready to blast him/her off the conversation. We are leading such an involuntary and abruptly ending life of deceit, jealously and ego that we don't realise when we have hurted the same people whom we once publicly announced as most "sincere" and "honest" friends. why this sudden rush of blood to blast off people even without thinking of any consequences? Why this conclusion that if a person has a different take, he/she is rude and argumentative? I don't know the answers, but may be somewhere we have lost the innocence of listening and appreciating different point of views from people.

6) We talk about being obsessive with the social networking websites and friends uploading their "fun-filled" pictures on it. Some of them have been to foreign locations for vacations, some have relocated to another country for their jobs or some have got married/engaged. All i can see are the happy faces around me, which no doubt momentarily give happiness to me too. But why i can't feel the happiness of those same people when i am talking to them on chat messengers. If they are happy, why none of them ever pings me to tell a good news. why none of the friends share our 'bachpan ka joke' with me anymore? why none of them give me a call to share the excitement? why they want a perceived appreciation from 'mafia wars gang' first than the person who have studied for 4 years with them. I don't know the answers but may be we have lost our innocence of sharing the good and bad things to the people who actually matter?

7) We talk about how love is the most emphatic and euphoric feeling two people can ever feel in a romantic relationship. we constantly crib about how our lives have become so busy that people can't give time to each other when in love. But still a girl discusses her most intimate talks with a random stranger in a chat room because she felt 'judged' by his boyfriend. Still a man feel the need to get laid with the 'other hot chick' in the office because he can't bear the long distance of three months with his 'onsite' visiting girl friend. Have relationships become that cheap or is it that love is just a notion we like to keep to massage our ever increasing egos. Is love becoming more of a theoretical concept and people are playing with it in the name of being practical. I don't know the answers but may be we have lost the innocence of being in true love and making that one person feel special always.

PS: I know what you must be thinking, I don't make any sense with this post. You are absolutely right. However, It's not the answers which bothers me, but the fact that somewhere i myself have lost the innocence of living :|


22 comments:

Anonymous said...

itni lambi post likhta hai...dekh hi dar lagta hai.. =P
im off to read it.. =D

Anonymous said...

why am I appearing as "anonymous" ?? I made some changes "somewhere" else... I guess they are showing up at the wrong place...bleehhh..anyways.. for your kind information...I am gargi the greatest!... ok enough faltu bakwas...

hmmm..so a very DEEP post... kya bolu.. i know there are soooo many names/people hidden in those posts... i just hope i am not one of them =| LOL!

I am so touched by 4th point... I miss family time...thats the main reason i miss india =(
It doesn't feel the same anymore..the festivities..the relatives..and as you grow up..you even realise that the people you looked up to once..are not that great after all. It just breaks my heart =(

I guess the main reason for this extinction of innocence is selfishness. I am not blaming anyone. I am one of them! You just tend to move on somehow. You just dont find the right things to talk about with the people who use to be so close to you! Sad but true. And anyways..in the end what matters the most is your immediate family including your partner, parents brothers and sisters. Bas..yahi dikhta hai..aur sab shayad utne pas nahi lagte.. At least mere sath to aisa hi hota hai =/

And the whole sania-shoaib issue... aargghh... all i have to say is..blown WAY out of proportion! Let them live for fucks sake! I have my personal life to deal with! I dont want news channels blabbering stuff about the least important people around me! I form an opinion about the issue yes...but main iske alawa koi haye haye nahi karungi.. i couldnt be bothered! And when I ask the only question: "Why would a guy like shoaib fall for a fatso like Ayesha?!?!"..the only reply I get that too my boyfriend.. is "Well..i fell in love with you..didnt i!??!"...so I think better to shut up..LOL!

Don't think so much guptaji! Headache hoga head me! =P LOL. I know the innocence is lost. And I am perfectly fine with it only because people change..circumstances change! Live for those who are close to you. Baki sab to momentary joy dete hain. =)

ab mera bhashan yahin samapt hota hai! Jai Hind!

LOL!
Take care =)
xox

mêlée said...

hmm...questions that comes to mind in its extreme states....moderation helps and shows all of it is not what bits of it seems to be!
this post reminds me of few interesting pieces one comes across in sociology.
keep up the good work!

Chandrika Shubham said...

Nice! :)
I liked the point two most. :)

ARUNA said...

very nice post Amit.....well written!!

The Survivor said...

A hard hitting post I must say and quite agree with the points mentioned.

ThE aNgEl said...

Hey,
it does make a lot of sense...to me atleast..
each n every word u wrote is true...!!
nobody has the answer to these questions...!!

Regards,
Yasmin

Hopeless Romantic said...

@ Melee

Don’t know whether they are moderate or extreme thoughts, but these things cross my mind very often these days. May be the time is not right for me.

Thanks,
Amit

Hopeless Romantic said...

@ Fatima

Good to see you here after a long time, though I tend to disagree with your comment. I personally feel being honest and open on the blog depends on thought process of one individual. If you want yourself to be distracted by others, invariably you will get disturbed. You may face people who would try and put you down, but then life in blogging is same as in real life. There will always be people who will try and create obstacles, it is on you how you deal with them and overcome it.

Cheers,
Amit

Hopeless Romantic said...

@ Chandrika

Thank you very much :)

cheers,
amit

Hopeless Romantic said...

@ Aruna

Thanks, good to have you here after a long time!

cheers,
amit

Hopeless Romantic said...

@ The Survivor

Glad you agree with me, it was a soul searching post.

Thanks,
Amit

Hopeless Romantic said...

@ Yasmin

More than the answers, what is more important issue is what are we doing to answer them in an effective manner.

Thanks,
Amit

Hopeless Romantic said...

@ Gargi

When do I write short post, or for that matter when do you write short comments? : D

Your anonymous status sucks: P When I wrote the post, I did not think of anyone particular, though now you are forcing me to think of a few who subconsciously may have crept in my thoughts :)

I miss family too BIG time, being alone here sucks at time but then I myself chose this, so I can’t complain as well :) Though I am terribly missing meeting my 4 month old niece whom I have not seen yet.

There is nothing wrong in being a little selfish; otherwise people can run over you. But my issues have been with people who hold an important place in your life once, with whom you share good and bad things of your life and suddenly they go vanish like thin air. But you are right, in the end it’s all about loving your family and your partner :)

lol@ Sania and shoaib take on of your bf, though I agree it is just blowed out of proportion.

If circumstances change the innocence, I HATE it.

Thanks for dropping by and NOT being lazy this time around ;-)

Love,
Amit

Ann said...

Great posts. Yeah, people these days, run from realities and from there true self.

Amity said...

Hi!

Not really some random thoughts...but quite real random thoughts...too much to take and learn...:)

Thanks for sharing....:)

Been following you but only now I see a new post from you, maybe i missed lots now...:)

Hopeless Romantic said...

@ Annie

Thanks, pretty true and i agree!

Cheers,
Amit

Hopeless Romantic said...

@ Amity

I was not writing regularly, so you may have not missed much! Thanks for dropping by! Glad you liked it!

Regards,
Amit

mêlée said...

hmmm, staying in a faraway place must be a lil tough at times...but better than those who are miles apart despite geographical proximity isnt it :) cheer up and also take care!

Hopeless Romantic said...

@ Melee

Thanks a lot :)

Cheers,
Amit

Aman said...

Amazing post Amit!

Very well written...sometimes we are such hypocrites ...a good self check for sure!

loved it!

Hopeless Romantic said...

@Aman

Hmm, thanks, good to see you here after a long time. Hope you are doing well!

Cheers,
Amit